Have you ever given a thought to the amount of work that you do for your children, especially toddlers and preschoolers? If you begin to write everything down in a book, in all probability, the pages will get exhausted! Seriously, when we actually quantify the work, it begins to look humungous.
Some unwarranted tension in the house!
Right from picking up their toys after play, getting them ready, making them eat without making a mess, you can see work everywhere. Moreover, if you are particular about your house being neat, then the pressure is even more. Added to this, if you are working parents, the tension is palpable in the house every second.
But, did you realize that in most of the cases the fault lies not in our stars, but in the way we bring up our kids? Are we willing to let them do some work that is really appropriate for their age? Are we not scared that they might get hurt at times? In the end, it is we parents who refuse to let go of our kids and give them some responsibility, thereby not initiating them into independence. Somewhere deep down in our hearts we are scared that they will not listen to us once they become independent.
In all this, we are making some blatant parenting mistakes, using the “parenting 24 hours a day” rule as an excuse.
So, what can be done about it?
To put it simply, we should give them a chance at being independent. Children, including toddlers and preschoolers, should be allowed to do their chores that are age appropriate. They should also be given some choices that they can exercise.
In fact, according to psychologists, there is a thing called overparenting as well as parenting all the time. These are some of the reasons as to why parents are unable to let go of their child. The effects of all this are shown on the child. He/she is not able to take those developmental leaps with the parents being around and indulging in over parenting.
Therefore, the answer lies in the statement – “Letting kids be kids!” Give them sufficient time to do their work. They are quite capable of doing many things that we adults think are impossible for them. The best example would be dressing up kids! When we dress up our children, it does not take more than five minutes. But, leave them to do it, they may even take an hour. Let us question ourselves here. Do we have the time at hand? Are we patient enough to see their creativity?
The bottom line here is that children should be independent. Parents should encourage them to take their own decisions, and do age-appropriate tasks. This builds so much of self-confidence in these tiny tots that it is amazing to see them walk around with their heads held high!
If you are willing to make your child independent, here are some tips.
How to raise independent toddlers and preschoolers?
Lastly, maintain a routine and consistency. When you want kids to be independent, then you must follow a routine where kids know what they must do and what is expected of them. If parents end up doing the work, kids are smart enough to let them do it. And, we do not want that to happen!